Overcoming Unhealthy Thinking

As a fitness professional, I regularly encounter individuals that have carried unhealthy thinking, patterns and problems from childhood straight into adulthood. Such problems might include distorted body image, emotional eating, or hyperfocus on scale weight. Often, such individuals have been told by family members that they would look great if they could just lose 5 more lbs., or how good they would look if they hadn’t inherited the family thighs, rear end, etc. Others have weighed themselves multiple times a day for years and with every fluctuation of the scale, beaten themselves up over it. These behaviors are self-punishing and unproductive, yet very common. I strongly believe that there is much more surrounding weight loss and wellness that requires redirection of thought and elimination of negative self-talk.

I work hard to help my clients reframe how they look at their efforts in weight loss and exercise adherence. This is a challenge for me every day as old habits die hard and especially those that are deeply rooted. Sometimes I witness break-throughs, where I see new thought processes emerging, only to see old ones re-emerge a week later. The bottom line is that it takes six months to establish new behaviors. It takes real commitment to graduate into healthier, more balanced thinking. Old habits are not created overnight, and they shall not be undone overnight either.

In an effort to help my clients reframe how they view themselves and their efforts, I encourage them to do the following:

• Reward yourself to doing something right. Most people excel at beating themselves up when they experience failure, but no one rewards himself or herself for a job well done (especially women). If you eat better for a month, or exercise regularly for two weeks, then reward yourself for doing so…just don’t make it a food related reward.
• Look back (often) at where you started from to measure your success. Are you less fatigued walking up stairs or across a parking lot? Fitting better in your clothes? Sleeping better at night? Eliminated any small, nagging pains? Review your progress and celebrate victories along the way.
• Confront the people in your life that sabotage your fitness efforts and ask them for their help. Make them an ally instead of an enemy. Tell them that you are a "work in progress" and that you are doing the best you can and how they can help you do better.
• Embrace a healthy lifestyle and a new thought process that focuses on the long term. Do not decide to drop a few pounds or start exercising in order to fit into a bathing suit, look good for a high school reunion, etc. Events come and go, and then what? Do it because it is the right thing to do for your health today, tomorrow and beyond.
• Honor your emotions and try to process them versus "stuff" them down with food. Food is supposed to nourish and provide fullness, not to fill emotional voids. Try to sit with your feelings and process them to seek better understanding before running to food as an answer or consolation.
• Surround yourself with other people on a similar journey and share with each other what works and what doesn’t. Find someone as motivated as you, or more motivated and rally around each other. This helps build accountability and support.

In summary, there is a definite mental process that occurs with the physical and should be embraced every bit as much. A healthy lifestyle will include feeling good about one’s self, honoring one’s body, and being the best possible at any given age. These aspects far outweigh "scale weight" and add much more to the overall package of happiness and self-satisfaction. Also, remember that the act of "trying" is an important one, and that often we learn from failures when we experience them. So, embrace any failures along the way in your fitness journey as learning experiences and move on.